How I reset after a bad day
Have you ever just felt "off"?
You start the day thinking "Yep, s**t is about to go left today". Nothing in particular has happened but you don't feel like your usual self. You try to shake it off and go about your day, but little things that don't usually get to you are making you mad. Then you find yourself getting mad about getting mad and feel like the day is ruined so you just
Yeah...that's the kind of day I had today. At the start of the day I was focused on pushing through the bad mood, but by the end I'd lost my battle and succumbed to it.
I've noticed that these days have occurred more frequently since my last relationship ended earlier this year. Dealing with break up blues and "off" days, bouncing back and "resetting" for the next day has been quite challenging. Especially since my usual methods of talking it out with my boyfriend and going on long walks to clear my mind (it's too cold for all of that) aren't available. Well now that I'm single and the next "bright and sunny" day probably won't be until the end of may, I've had to find other ways to cope.
I figured I'd share how I "reset" on my blog. I doubt any of them are groundbreaking or innovative, but they still might be helpful to anyone else trying to bounce back at the end of an "off" day.
1. Get all of my feelings out
As someone who tends to bottle things up, this is both the hardest and most important thing to do. Carrying pent up feelings around weighs me down and has a habit of coming out at the most inopportune time. While everyone else has moved on, I'm still holding onto the past because I haven't given myself the chance to address my feelings.
If you have a close friend that you trust, feel free to reach out to them. Talking with another person can help, especially if they can relate to what you're going through. Another option is to write your feelings down. I just open my journal to a new page and start writing. It can be long poetic passages, a bulleted list, or word vomit. The formatting doesn't matter as long as you get it all out.
2. Pamper myself
This can mean different things to different people. For me, it can mean anything from cooking a meal to curling up in bed with a cup of tea and watching my favorite movie. I usually associate this with a (mini) spa session. I tend to focus on one part of my body, like my nails or face, so that I don't get overwhelmed. I set a calming mood by putting a couple of drops of lavender essential oil into my diffuser. It's such a relaxing scent and makes my place smell like a spa. Depending on my mood, my "Repeats" playlist on Spotify will be playing in the background. I'll spend a little extra time on my nightly skincare routine and end it with a face mask or I'll give myself a quick mani/pedi. This gives me something else to focus on and helps elevate my mood.
3. Start over tomorrow
Just because today was difficult, doesn't mean tomorrow will be. I can start my day with a clean slate and not feel weighed down by the funk I was in the day before. Tomorrow will always have the potential to better than today.
What are some of the ways that you bounce back from a bad day?